Once a buyer decides that they’re interested in what you have to say in your profile or your items, they’ll send you a message. The more messages you’re getting from buyers, the better your shop is at bringing in customers. You should feel great about receiving your first message!
However, you haven’t made your sale yet. Transactions on used panty websites aren’t exactly like they are on Amazon or Etsy. Customers usually don’t simply put items in their cart and buy them. Instead, they want to get to know you a little before they buy.
Here are some tips for messaging with buyers to keep them interested and get sales.
Build a rapport.
You might think that used panty buyers just want to talk to you about sex. While some of your conversations will probably be more sexually explicit than others, some buyers might just want to get to know your hobbies and interests to make you seem more like a real person. They want to know if they have something in common with you. It’s sexy for some people to get to know the person whose panties they buy.
Be open and honest when talking to buyers. Try your best to be yourself when possible! Of course, if they ask what you’re wearing, you might not want to say Hello Kitty sweatpants. But it’s much easier to keep your story straight if you’re talking about real aspects of your personal life.
It’s important to try to respond to messages as soon as you can. Potential buyers might be messaging more than one seller at a time, and if someone else responds faster, they might get the sale. You don’t always have to be by your computer, but check your messages once or twice a day. Once you’re talking to someone regularly, respond to them often. Most sites will send you an email when you have a new message, which makes it easy to check to see if you have new ones on your cell phone or without logging in.
Some sites have “online now” features, which can be very helpful in creating visibility. It allows you to talk to a buyer right away and maybe create an agreement the same day! Go online as much as you can. Keep the window open while you check your email or watch Netflix. This will help get your shop discovered.
Don’t try to jump into a sale right away.
Buyers want to get to know you, and will probably be turned off if you try to move the conversation to sales right away. They’re expecting to talk to you and feel you out to see if they’re interested in your panties. That’s totally normal, and it’s part of the job. Talking to customers isn’t a waste of time, but rather a way to build sales.
Get a little flirty.
Remember, you’re not selling your Furby collection on Ebay. You’re selling a sexual product. Camgirls and strippers need to flirt for the tips they receive, and you probably will, too.
Some sellers aren’t a big fan of this process, but it can be an opportunity to feel sexy. Remember, all of these people are turned on by you and what you have to offer. It might make you feel more desired than going on Tinder or Grindr!
You’re more likely to get sales if you can serve a little bit of flirting energy. It doesn’t have to be over the top, but keeping the buyer’s mind on sex makes it more likely that they’ll get horny and want to buy your panties right away.
Don’t keep talking to them if it seems like they won’t buy.
There are some people on used panty websites who just want to use it to talk to hot people. They don’t really intend to buy anything from you. It’s easier to avoid this if you use a site with a membership fee for buyers like Sofia Gray. If they’re paying money to make an account, they’re more likely to actually be interested.
However, if you’ve been talking to a buyer for over a week and they haven’t bought anything, feel free to cut them loose. You can drop hints that you’d like them to buy, like “Ugh, my rent is due soon” or “which pair of panties are you interested in?” If they don’t grab the opportunity, it’s okay to stop talking.
Feel free to send extra pictures.
Your buyer might want to see more pictures of you or the items you have in your shop. This makes some people feel a little conflicted. Are they trying to get stuff from me for free?
It’s normal to want to get a clear idea of what you’re buying, so it doesn’t hurt to send extra pics if the buyer is curious. Also, if you’re okay with showing your face, sharing a selfie can entice buyers.
However, don’t add more pics if you don’t feel comfortable, especially if they want nudes. Selling used panties is supposed to be fun, and it’s not supposed to make you feel uncomfortable. If they ask for pics, you can always tell them you’ll send a few with the package after they buy.
Don’t give away any identifying information.
While it’s best to be yourself while talking to a buyer, don’t give away any information that could help a buyer track you down. Most people who buy used panties just have a fetish and are completely normal. But it doesn’t hurt to have that extra layer of security, especially if you’re afraid of your shop being exposed.
While it’s fine to tell people what city you live in, never give away your address or take a picture outside of your home or apartment building. This is especially true if the seller comes from the same area as you.
If you want to talk about people in your life like a friend or boyfriend, you might want to consider changing their names. It’s easier to find you if they know certain people you’re connected to, and that’s not what you want.
In addition, it’s best not to give out your cell phone number. If they really want to talk to you, you can chat over Zoom or Skype. It’s possible to do online searches to track down phone numbers, so be careful.
Again, the chances that this could become a problem are very rare. However, we want you to stay safe and not worry about having any trouble.
If a potential client makes a request that makes you uncomfortable, you should say no. If someone seems like a creep, it’s okay to stop messaging them or tell them to change the subject. You’re the person with the items they want, and it’s okay to put your foot down.
Remember, you shouldn’t feel weird or “dirty” about the used panty selling experience. If someone is making you feel weird, it’s better to stop talking to them. Do you really want their sale? Would you feel comfortable continuing to message them if they wanted to be a repeat customer? Does the idea of them having your undies give you the heebie jeebies? If so, just cut ‘em off. If things get really weird or gross, consider reporting them to your chosen site so other sellers don’t have to deal with them.
Be prepared to negotiate.
It’s common that some buyers will try to negotiate the prices of your stock with you. (For this reason, it can be a good idea to price your items a little higher than the lowest price you’re willing to receive.)
If they want a lower price, don’t feel insulted. They want to save their money just as much as you want to make it. It’s normal to negotiate with private sellers on sites like Craigslist, so this isn’t much different.
Don’t lowball yourself. Tell them the minimum amount you’re willing to sell your panties for. This is a personal question about bringing in a profit and valuing your work. If someone wants a pair of $35 panties for $20, they’re trying to bring the price down too much. Would you want a regular customer who’s paying well below your rates?
You always have the power to turn down a transaction. If you tell them you’ll take $30 for a $35 pair and they still aren’t into it, you can just walk away. There will be buyers out there who are willing to pay your rates, or at least a number closer to what you’re asking.
Don’t be spammy.
Some sites let you message a potential buyer first. This feature is both a blessing and a curse. Use it sparingly.
You don’t want buyers to get the impression that you message every single person who wants to buy used underwear on the site. This seems spammy and is unlikely to result in any sales. Don’t prepare a message that you copy and paste every time.
Consider messaging with something short and sweet. “Hey handsome, how’s your day going?” can be a good conversation starter. Saying “Hey, check out my shop!” seems a little desperate.
It is possible to make sales using these features. Experiment with what type of message brings in sales and what doesn’t.
Send updates about the undies they buy.
Congratulations, you’ve made a sale! Now it’s time to do your best to turn them into a repeat customer.
Send them updates about the process of wearing your used panties if you make them after an order. These can be sexy updates, but they don’t have to be. Telling them where they are in the queue lets them anticipate when the lingerie will arrive.
Make sure to message them when you ship out their product and approximately how long it will take to reach them. This will help both of you resolve any shipping issues that might arise. And again, it lets them feel the anticipation of a new pair of panties arriving at their house!
Continue to message buyers to get repeat customers.
It’s not a bad idea to keep a list of your buyers and message them every once in a while to try to keep them interested in their shop. A week or so after they receive the panties, you can ask how they like them. This could result in another sale down the line.
If you get some extra time or business is slow, consider checking up with your previous buyers. Ask them how they’re doing and whether they’re still enjoying the underwear. This will hopefully cause them to peruse your shop and buy something new.