Squirting has become a huge, often misunderstood part of female sexuality. It’s one of the top 20 categories on PornHub, and many men believe that if a girl squirts, he’s automatically super good at sex. However, talking about this complex phenomenon requires a lot of nuance, and there are many stereotypes and misconceptions that need to be debunked.
Squirting is when a person with a vagina expels fluid from their urethra during sex. Not exactly the sexiest description, but an accurate one. This process may happen alongside orgasm, but it doesn’t have to. There’s a lot of debate about what the fluid actually is, but we’ll get to that later.
Even though talking about squirting has surged in popularity recently, it’s far from a new concept. Squirting was well-known in the ancient world. Chinese Taoist texts mention female ejaculation as far back as the 4th century, and Aristotle talked about this female fluid in 300 B.C. Ancient texts like the Kama Sutra described the fluid as “female semen” and talked about the G-spot as well, which is funny because a lot of men still don’t know how to find it in this the year of our Lord 2019.
Talking about squirting can be difficult, because, like many things that affect female bodies, it hasn’t been studied very much, whether from shame or disinterest. Scientists don’t really know how it works or what its purpose is. What we do know, though, is that it’s completely normal, and you’re not weird or dirty if you experience it.
Studies have found that anywhere from 10-54% of women are squirters. That’s obviously an enormous range, so it’s hard to know how common it really is. However, we know it is very prevalent in porn, and a lot of women want to be able to do it.
The fluid involved in squirting is sort of an enigma, and researchers aren’t completely sure where it comes from. There are actually two types of fluid that can be considered female ejaculation, which might contribute to the confusion.
The first and most famous is called squirting fluid. This is what you see in porn videos. It’s an odorless and colorless liquid that can shoot out, honestly, like a firehose. It has the capacity to soak a bed or a partner, though sometimes a squirting session can result in only a few drops.
The other is ejaculate fluid. It sort of resembles male semen because it’s thick and milky. It contains prostatic acid, an enzyme that’s in male semen that helps sperm motility. Also like male semen, it contains fructose.
It’s likely that the prostatic acid and fructose in female ejaculate come from the Skene’s glands, which are sometimes called the female prostate. They sit on the front wall of the vagina near the G-spot, and when stimulated, they create ejaculate fluid.
While the female ejaculate fluid is super interesting, we’ll focus on squirting for the rest of the article, since it’s what basically everyone thinks about when it comes to squirting.
A lot of misinformed people think that squirting fluid is just pee. This is probably largely because of an infamous study that took place in 2014 that looked at squirting. They measured the amount of urine in seven women’s bladders, then asked them to have sex and squirt. When they measured the amount of fluid in their bladders afterward, they were empty.
This seems like a slam dunk, pointing to the fact that the fluid is just urine. However, if you flash back to your high school science class, this is a super flawed study. Testing only seven people isn’t even close enough to enough data, so acting like this is gospel is just silly.
There’s also real evidence against the pee hypothesis. First of all, a scientist named Beverly Whipple did an analysis of squirting fluid in the 1980s. Admittedly, she did find that there were urea and creatine present, which are chemicals present in urine. However, they were only present at very low levels.
This is interesting, because male semen regularly has traces of pee in it, too. This is likely because both jizz and pee come out of the same hole; they’re bound to intermingle a little bit. If there’s only a small amount of these chemicals in squirting fluid, it seems likely that it’s because both fluids come out of the urethra.
Whipple also found that there was prostatic acid in squirting fluid, just like there is in female ejaculate. This makes it likely that the female prostate tissues known as Skene's glands are at least partially responsible for squirting.
We can talk about the details all we want, but what is squirting actually like? There’s an interesting thread on Reddit where squirters recount their experiments. You also probably have friends who have done it before, if you ever get into a tipsy session of truth or dare.
The thing is, there’s no real consensus on how it feels. Many squirters say it feels like they’re about to pee before they do it. Some report that it feels absolutely amazing and intensifies their orgasm. There are some people who say they don’t even know that they did it, so it’s not a big deal for them. It can feel like a release of pressure and even make you feel like an empowered sex deity.
As for the squirting fluid, people who squirt have a lot of personal evidence that it’s something other than pee. Squirters report that it’s clear, not yellow, and it doesn’t smell like pee during the cleanup process. Partners say the fluid doesn’t taste like pee, that it’s sweet or like saltwater.
Most squirters agree that the best way to open the floodgates is through G-spot stimulation. This is probably because the G-spot is located very close to the Skene's glands. Put the two together and you’re on a one-way trip to Squirt City.
The G-spot is located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina. It’s against the front wall, so it’s closer to your belly button than your back. One of the best ways to reach it is to insert your fingers and then do a come hither motion.
It’s best to think of the G-spot as more of a zone than a spot. When you reach it, you may feel that the tissue feels more textured than the rest of your vagina. That’s perfectly normal and makes it easier to identify. When you hit the right part of the G-spot with the right amount of pressure, you’ll stimulate your Skene’s glands. In people who can squirt, this stimulation is key.
We said at the beginning that maybe 10-54% of women can squirt. But what about the 46-90% who either can’t or haven’t yet?
We don’t really know why some people with vulvas can squirt and others can’t, because there have been few or no scientific research on the matter. It’s possible that some people just have smaller or less active Skene's glands. Others have theorized that there might be scar tissue blocking the ducts in some people.
It might have to do with some people feeling like they can’t truly let go during sex or masturbation. This could be because of trauma, their choice of partner, or just because it’s a very vulnerable thing.
No matter the reason, it’s obvious that some people aren’t able to squirt.
Unfortunately, there’s a huge expectation in our culture for women to squirt. This is probably at least partially because of pornography. There are currently 182,412 videos on PornHub that come up when you search the term “squirt.” However, many porn stars fake squirting in these scenes, either because they can’t squirt or the situations in the videos aren’t the sort that would make her squirt.
To fake it, a lot of women just pee. Many porn stars drink a crapton of water and use electrolyte powders to make sure the color is right and it’s not obvious to the viewer that she’s just peeing. As an alternative, some stars fill their urethras with water before shooting begins, then expel it at the exact right time. This option definitely doesn’t sound comfortable.
It’s common for men to have a squirting fetish (hence all the porn). This may be because they like the idea of being able to see physical evidence that a woman (or person with a vulva) has come. Of course, squirting doesn’t always equal orgasm. And honestly? If you’re doing a good job, you won’t have to wonder whether she’s coming, squirting or not.
Unfortunately, this has caused some people to feel like they need to squirt to satisfy their partner, and they feel inadequate if they’re not able to. No one should be shamed for not being able to squirt. If your partner is treating you badly because of it, this could even be emotional abuse.
If you’ve never squirted before and want to give it a try, you should show up with all hands on deck. We’ll talk about the anatomy and mechanics of the process in a minute, but if you’re a person who’s into sex toys, there are some options that might make your journey easier.
The best purchase you can make is a G-spot vibrator. These toys are curved to hit the G-spot; you just have to insert it and aim it at your pubic bone. This will provide a lot of extra stimulation to the area with very little effort on your part.
G-spot dildos are also a good choice, especially if you aren’t big on vibrators or are afraid the sensations would be too intense. They can be textured, which can help with squirting. Glass is a great material for this, and it can also be heated up or cooled down for your comfort.
If you really want to have a great experience, you can get a G-spot rabbit vibrator, which will stimulate and vibrate your G-spot and clit at the same time. Some people have trouble aligning the vibrator with their clit, and they don’t work for all bodies, but if you’ve used a vaginal one before, a G-spot version could be right up your alley.
Other toys that can help are a clitoral vibe like a Hitachi Magic Wand or an anal dildo. Which toys you’ll want here depend on the approach you choose in the next section, but they’ll all be fun regardless. And can anybody truly have too many sex toys?
EdenFantasies offers an Orgasmic Squirting Kit that includes a textured G-spot dildo, a rabbit style G-spot vibrator, and a wand clitoral vibrator. You get to pick from a bunch of toys, and when you buy everything together, you get a 60% discount. We’re literally not getting any money from them; it just seems like a great deal to get you squirting ASAP.
Last but not least, make sure you have some water-based lube. It’s best to use water-based lube with toys, because silicone lube can break down silicone toys over time. Water-based lube is the best option for beginners and requires less clean up, so we recommend it for your squirting experimentation. However, if you have a lube you already use, you might be more comfortable using that.
The time has come. You know about squirting and have your supplies. It’s time to try it out!
We’re going to go through three ways to try squirting. They’re all valid options and could work for you. Pick the one that seems easiest first, since relaxation is important.
For all of these options, lay down a towel. If the geyser does spring forth, you don’t want to ruin your sheets. Set an atmosphere that feels comforting to you. This could include calm, sexy music or a candle burning. It’s totally valid to want it to be just like a normal session too, if all that mushy stuff grosses you out. It is important to relax, though, so take some deep breaths and close your eyes. Remember to listen to the cues your body gives you.
If you feel pressure in your lower abdomen or you can tell you’re about to orgasm, that often means it’s go time. Bear down using your pelvic muscles, the same ones you use for kegels. (If you need to find them, try to stop your pee stream the next time you use the bathroom. The muscles you use for this are your PC muscles.) It might feel a little bit like you’re trying to lay an egg. If this doesn’t work, you can release and repeat until you’ve orgasmed.
Keep your expectations in check. You may need some time to experiment and get to know your body. Also, lots of people who squirt ejaculate a few drops rather than a firehose full. If you’ll feel like a failure because you can’t be a human super soaker, reconsider your experimentation for now and investigate your intentions.
This is the most important thing: stop if you’re not enjoying it. Since you’re trying something new, it’s important to trust yourself and stop if things get to be too much. Whether it’s because you’re feeling disappointed because it’s not happening or you find you don’t like to have your G-spot stimulated, it’s your body and you can stop at any time, even if you’re trying things out with a partner.
Many people find that it’s best to try out squirting for the first time solo. This removes any expectations, for you or for your partner. Plus, if you can figure it out on your own, it can be an exciting surprise.
Before you try out G-spot stimulation, take a trip to the restroom. Sometimes the feeling of having your G-spot stimulated can be like having to pee. If you pee before you start, you’re less likely to worry about releasing your bladder. The towels should also help your anxiety.
Your best bet for squirting is locating your G-spot. If you’ve never found it before, feel for the difference in texture and pay attention to your body. For most people, having your G-spot stimulated should feel good, and it shouldn’t hurt. Insert your fingers 2-3 inches inside your vagina, then locate the front wall, closest to your belly button.
Once you’ve found your G-spot, start massaging it with a comfortable but deep pressure. Often, the key to squirting is steady G-spot stimulation. Feel free to rock your body into it and respond to how you feel. This process shouldn’t be clinical; don’t forget to make it sexy! A G-spot vibrator or dildo will help maintain the pressure and stimulation, and you can also play with your clit if you want to.
You’ll want to keep up this stimulation for 20-30 minutes. Yeah, that’s a long time, but the squirting gods are fickle. Try not to focus on the amount of time, but instead on what you’re feeling.
Squirting doesn’t always coincide with orgasm, so it might help to put the big O off for a bit to see if squirting will come first. Teasing yourself is okay, but don’t feel like you have to hold yourself back. When the time comes, try to relax and see what happens!
Keep in mind that like any experiment, you might not hit the jackpot the first time. Don’t be discouraged! Try different amounts of pressure, different positions, and varying speed to discover your body and see what works for you.
Some people are able to squirt just by having their clitoris stimulated. This is because while only a small part of the clit is exposed, it actually extends down to either side of the vulva. With stimulation that’s intense enough, it can be felt all the way into the vagina and on the G-spot.
A wand vibrator is your best friend for this task, like the Hitachi Magic Wand. These wands apply crazy amounts of vibrations, so hold on tight! If you can, it’s great to pair this with the G-spot stimulation steps above. It never hurts to add a little more buzz to the party.
Again, you’ll want to draw things out for 20-30 minutes if you can, so don’t start out on the highest setting. Work your way up to it, the same way a partner would if they were giving you oral. Romance yourself a little bit.
If you want to try learning to squirt with a partner, you can also try oral sex. Oral will stimulate your clit in the same way, and you’ll also have the additional sexy visuals and hands on your body. If your partner isn’t up for performing for that long, you can use manual stimulation or bring in a vibrator while they take a break.
This may surprise you, but anal sex is another great way to squirt. Because the wall between the anus and vagina is thin, AFAB people can experience G-spot stimulation during butt sex. The ass is full of sensitive nerve endings as well, which can amplify your experience.
Anal also has a special little feature. When you do it, you can also hit the A-spot, which is an erogenous zone about two inches deeper than the G-spot that’s responsible for most penetrative vaginal orgasms. Hitting the A-spot is usually what makes people squirt from anal play, so don’t be afraid to go deep.
If you’re working with a partner, try different angles and pressure to get things just right. And like any anal sex, make sure to use plenty of lube. If things are starting to get sticky, just a bit more lube will get things going again.
If you and your partner want to try squirting, that’s great! Just make sure you haven’t pressured them to try it and the two of you communicate along the way. You want to create an environment where your partner feels comfortable, no matter what the outcome is.
Make sure to read the steps above. There are many parts of this process that you can help out with. Try giving them oral, rubbing their G-spot, holding a vibrator, or fucking them in the ass. This frees up their hands to explore other areas of their body. Remember that this process can take a long time, and don’t be surprised if your hands cramp up or your neck gets stiff. Your partner or some toys can help pick up the slack.
If your partner does squirt, let them know how sexy it was! Squirting fluid is perfectly healthy to lick or drink, if that’s your thing. And if you really want to impress them, let them rest and take care of any cleanup.
If your first try doesn’t work, don’t consider it a failure. If you’re intent on squirting, you can work at it for as long as you want. It takes practice and learning what your body enjoys.
But it’s also important to remember that squirting isn’t the ultimate sex achievement that only the most elite can unlock. It’s just one of those weird things, like how some people can curl their tongue and some people can wiggle their ears. Just because you can’t do any of those things doesn’t mean you’re broken. Any partners you’ll have will still love you, and there are plenty of other sexploits you can get into together.