How to Be a Financial Dominatrix Online

The world of financial domination can be...complicated, from the outside looking in. If you know nothing about the kink or being financially dominated, you will likely think this is a very strange thing to be turned on by. 

Before we dive into how to become a financial dominatrix, let’s chat about why people like to be dominated financially.

What Is Financial Domination?

Findom (short for financial domination) is a fetish where submissive individuals (most of the time, a man) pay tribute to a dominant person (most of the time, a woman) for seemingly nothing in return. I say “seemingly”, because it’s important to understand that this isn’t a completely empty translation for the submissive person - but more on that later! 

Findom is thought of as a rather small sub-section of the world of female domination, but there can be males who engage in financial domination as the dominant party as well - it’s just far less common. For the sake of ease, in this article, I’ll be referring to the financially dominant party in these agreements as a woman. 

Why do people like this so much!? 
This NY Times article sums it up perfectly with this line: “In it’s purest form, financial domination is not transactional. Sending money is the kink, and finsubs offer tributes often without expecting anything in return.”

In the same article, another individual is quoted as saying: “In the capitalist society we live in, money is so fetishized, especially by men. Men are taught from a very young age that they need to be breadwinners and they need to provide for women, for their families.”

Is financial domination that much different than fun powerplays in the bedroom with ropes and handcuffs? No! 

Sex and relationship therapist Joe Kort explains: “It’s a power exchange, just like in B.D.S.M., only it’s without ropes or chains — it’s with money. The money is, in fact, the chains, because dommes are tying up subs financially. The eroticism for the subs comes from feeling owned.”

And for findommes themselves, the money is only one aspect. Sure, it’s a great aspect, but a lot of findommes get into the findom world because they thrive and derive pleasure from being in control and having that kind of dominant and submissive relationship with someone.

Common FinDom Terms You Should Know…

As with any fetish, findom seems to be a world entirely of itself. There are many things in this world that outsiders may not understand from a first glance, and there are also many terms that are commonly thrown around that may sound confusing. 

So, let’s clarify a few...

Paypig, Human ATM, Money Slave, Cash Cow, Finsubs
These are all names commonly used to refer to financially submissive individuals.

Findomme, Cash Master/Mistress
These are terms used to describe financially dominant women. 

Findom
This term (often mistaken for the term above) is a short-form abbreviation for financial domination. 

Tribute
Tributes are another term for the financial contributions that submissives send to their findommes.

Send (or $end)
Often, findommes will post things like “$end to cover my mani/pedi and I’ll treat you to a naughty pic” as a way to encourage financial submissives to help cover the cost of something superficial that makes the domme attractive or alluring. 

How Much Do FinDommes Make?

This article (which is a really great read, by the way) interviews quite a few findommes (and a few finsubs) to explore why people like this and just how financially rewarding it can be. One financial dominatrix interviewed claims to have made over $1000 in just two weeks through her findom service! A finsub who has been financially submitting to cash masters for decades says he estimates he’s spent more than $150,000 on dozens of cash masters over the years.

How do findommes actually get paid?
You may be wondering how findommes actually get their money...surely they aren’t giving out their banking info to every submissive who comes along, right? Right. Findommes (like many other online sex workers) collect cash through cashapps or pay-per-view platforms like OnlyFans. 

Be careful which platform you use though, as certain popular platforms (such as PayPal) will ban your account if they realize this is how you’re earning an income. Venmo is one that is commonly used by many online sex workers for easy, instant transfers. 

A work-around could be having your clients tip you on various pay-per-view platforms (such as OnlyFans or a cam modeling website). 

Financial domination also isn’t just about money, but can be translated to material things. Many findommes accept prepaid credit cards or gift cards to popular sites like Amazon. Speaking of Amazon, many findommes actually also set up “wish lists” for online shopping sites so their submissives can treat them to expensive lingerie and toys in addition to tipping them in cash.

Is it really about the money?
No! The money is just one part of it. 

You may be reading this thinking “wow, this is a fantastic way to earn cash” - and you’re not wrong. However, there are a lot of findommes (and finsubs) out there who aren’t just in it for the money. Of course, as a findomme, earning an income from doing what you love is incredible, but people who choose to be Dominants of any kind (findommes included) choose to do so because it makes them happy, they are good at it and they want to make their submissive partners feel good. 

Entering into any kind of Dom and sub relationship (even one that is more a paid agreement) takes time, effort, and communication to ensure all parties are satisfied and feeling safe.

Tips for Being a Financial Dominatrix

How do you become a financial dominatrix? 
Where do you start? 
And once you’re started, how do you grow in the business? 

Let’s talk tips and tricks for becoming a successful financial dominatrix...

It’s about your brand. 
Creating a brand is essential to any kind of content provider or service provider - you need people to be able to find you, assess what you do and determine quickly if you’re the right fit for their needs. Simple as that. 

Creating a financial dominatrix brand is about finding your sweet spot - every Domme will have a different style, a different vibe, a different look. Before diving head first into the branding game, have a look online (Twitter is a great place to start) to see how other findommes have branded themselves. 

Unfortunately, there are a lot of sleazy people in the BDSM world who try to take advantage of others (both on the submissive and Dominant sides) - building a brand for yourself (and more importantly, a reputation for that brand) is extremely important.

It’s about how you make them feel. 
Your customers come to you (and pay you) to feel good. Submission is about feeling secure and safe, it’s about feeling powerless, which can often make you feel powerful at the end of the day. There’s no high quite like completely submitting yourself to someone else, and when it comes to finances, you want to ensure your submissives are feeling good about your partnership. 

It’s about marketing and promotion. 
The competition is fierce out there - there are a lot of people trying to make it in the findom world. You need to market and promote yourself to get ahead. This means social media channels dedicated to only your findom persona, it means searching for clients on various platforms (more on that below) and it means building up a dedicated fanbase. 

Check out our list of NSFW-friendly social media platforms for an idea on where to start your brand!

It’s (sometimes) about consensual degradation. 
There’s a way to be cruel in a kind way. Anyone who’s ever been in the dominant position in a relationship or partnership (even a casual one) will understand what I mean. Consensual degradation and humiliation are a big part of why many people enjoy being submissive.

Discussing these things with your customers and having a set of ongoing rules of what type of behavior they’d like from you during this agreement is essential. Some customers like to simply send tributes to make you happy and spoil you, some like to receive little “gifts” in return (sexy photos, a voice message thanking them, etc), and others like to be verbally degraded and humiliated. The most important thing to remember is that any degradation that goes on needs to be consensually part of your agreement with the other party.

It’s about being dominant (obviously). 
You don’t ask for money, you demand it. That’s what you’re being paid for - to be dominant. Of course, you will need to ensure you’re not crossing any boundaries with your sub, so that will need to be discussed before the partnership begins. However, once you’re in a partnership with a submissive, you tell them what to do - you don’t ask. 

One sure-fire way to tank your findom business is to be desperate. People are wanting to pay for an in-control, badass woman - not a needy, I-need-to-pay-rent sob story. While, yes, you may be counting on this income as a way to pay rent, groveling for tributes isn’t what this is about. Financial domination is about the act of domination for financial gain - so if you’re going to do it, you need to be comfortable being in the dominant position in every interaction. 

It’s about knowing your submissive(s). 
This is crucial. When you’re meeting any new submissive, you need to understand a few things: why they are doing this, what they hope to get out of it and what their limits/boundaries are. Those things are essential. The more you understand about your submissives fetish and why this arouses them (and what exactly they want from you in return), the better you can be for them. 

It’s about the art of seduction. 
Gaining new clients and building up your platform and presence is a difficult task - it takes hard work, dedication, and seduction. You want to lure and tempt your clients into a mutually beneficial agreement. There is a fair share of marketing and salesmanship that needs to go into this, as the market for financial dominants is quite large and your customers have a lot of people to choose from.

A lot of the time, it’s about “less is more.” 
Many findommes don’t actually ever show their entire naked self to a submissive in her charge. It’s not about sex, it’s not about nudity, it’s about being in control. For the submissive, it’s about letting go and letting someone else decide things for you. A lot of the time, it’s about flat-out spoiling someone and many even take pleasure from not getting anything back from that. 

Any clips and pictures you take or send should be seductive and sensual, not raunchy. You’re selling your ability to be a leader and boss them around. 

It’s about building long-term partnerships. 
There are a lot of submissives out there who choose their financial dominatrix and stay with them for years. You, as a financial dominatrix, should be focused on ways to build and sustain mutually beneficial, long-lasting agreements with your submissives. This means building up a certain level of trust, communication, and consent. 

Sometimes, it’s actually about blackmail. 
Yep, you read that right. Some people not only like to be blackmailed, but it actually is what arouses them the most. Submissives will often share secrets with their findommes or send their findommes compromising photos of themself. Findommes then use that as a way to consensually extort money from the submissive. All of this will have been set up in advance with safewords and limits in place for how much the findomme can “take” from the submissive. 

You’re going to have to spot the time-wasters and avoid them. 
There are always people who will ask for free stuff. There are always people who will pretend they are interested and have no real intention of paying you for your services. This is an unfortunate fact, and one you will need to account for in your search for loyal submissives who really want this kind of relationship with you.

Consider putting contracts into place. 
A sure-fire way to avoid people who just want free things from you (including your time) is to ask your submissives to have a contract with you. An agreement could safeguard the submissive in terms of how much money they are spending (here, you can discuss weekly or monthly limits, safe words, etc) and can also keep you both honest in terms to honoring the agreement of the partnership. 

Online Resources for FinDommes

So, you want to be a financial dominatrix. I bet you’re wondering where to get started, right? There are tons of resources online to help you learn more about this and gauge if it’s something you’re interested in. 

Let’s check out some resources for up and coming findommes...

Findoms.com 
This is a femdom financial domination community where you can meet other findommes, learn more about the findom world.

Twitter
Twitter is a MUST HAVE for people in the sex-positive content creation space, and that includes findommes! Many findommes start on a social media platform like Twitter, because it’s one of the few remaining social media platforms that allow NSFW content. This is where you can build up your brand and find your first subs! There are tons of findommes already on the platform that you can find using hashtags like “findomme” “paypig” “send”, etc. 

RichMeetBeautiful.com
This site is described as a place where “sugar babies can find sugar daddy/mamas” - and while financial domination is something entirely separate, there are some people on these types of sites who are looking for a findomme. 

OnlyFans, Fancentro, Fansly, Chaturbate
These types of pay-per-view platforms are excellent resources for ways to interact with your subs. Sending tips through these avenues won’t get you banned from cash apps like PayPal who often restrict sex-related services if they realize that’s what you’re doing. Additionally, it can be a great way to safely exchange photos and videos with your subs. 

Pornhub (and all of their affiliates)
Porn websites are a great way to meet financial submissives indulging in submissive-style porn looking for a financial dominatrix. Alternatively, signing up for Pornhub as a model and putting videos out there promoting yourself as a financial dominatrix can help people find you. 

Some excellent articles on the findom world: 
Become a Financial Dominatrix & Make Easy Money 
This Is How You Dominate Men with Money…
Mistress Marley’s Tips on How to Become a Financial Dominatrix
A Submissive Man Explains His FinDom Fetish

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