There is always a kind of natural ebb and flow to a couple’s sex life.
Every relationship is going to have periods where the sex is fantastic, and then (for really no apparent reason) you will also have periods where your sex life is a bit more routine. Routine isn’t always a bad thing - you get in, get off and get out.
By this point, you know the other person’s needs pretty well - but routine can just be a bit...bland.
Introducing toys for two into our sex life was a big turning point for us. We were new parents, new homeowners and our sex was actually the best it had ever been - which obviously made us want more.
Great sex can be addictive like that.
So we started looking into toys. As a woman in her late 20s, I had obviously dabbled with toys before - bullets, wands and of course that Lelo toy that I swear every woman should own..but we were looking to add some fire for us both - so I did some research.
It can be a bit daunting to add sex toys into your relationship. Whether you have been together for 2 years or 10 years - there are a few reasons this could be something you’ve never tried before.
Some people are a bit intimidated by toys in the bedroom, feeling like they will then be deemed inadequate. Sometimes sex, fetishes, and porn aren’t things that couples are very open about, despite sharing the rest of their lives together.
Whatever your reason for not indulging in sex toys up until now - let me give you some very convincing reasons why you absolutely should do try it.
Even the best sex can still be better with the use of some toys.
I’ve always had a reasonably high sex drive and in our almost 10 years together, I’ve always been comfortable and happy with our sex life - but adding toys into the mix that were designed for the two of us gave us a little something extra on those nights when we wanted to do something different.
Even when you have been together for years, there are still things that might surprise you about your partner and what they like in bed.
Whether it’s a fetish they haven’t told you about or some other kinky trend you haven’t tried together yet - venturing into new territory as a couple can be a great way to strengthen the bond you have and add some spice.
Like I said - even great sex can be improved...and you can’t improve something unless you try adding something new to it.
Countless medical and scientific inventions were products of trial and error that eventually led to success. Even if you try and it’s not a hit - try again, you’ll find something that works for you both.
Even when you’re having the best sex you’ve ever had together, adding something new, intimate and exciting to your sex life can lead you to feel things you never even knew were possible.
It’s not just sex toys you can experiment with, either. Bondage, some light choking and maybe adding something a bit more intense are all surefire ways to take things to the next level.
I think it’s safe to say none of us are having the same kind of sex we were when we were teenagers. Over time, your tastes and desires change - and so will your partner’s. To keep in tune with each other’s current desires, adapting your sex life every once and a while (and adding some fun new toys into the mix) can ensure things never get boring.
Choosing the right toy can make a huge difference in your experience - but how do you decide what toy(s) you and your partner want to test out?
There are so many toys and with that, so many product reviews and articles on the toys that are best used for couples, but no one can decide what you two want better than you.
Your lover might already have a kinky scenario or fetish in mind that they haven’t told you about, because you’ve never asked (and sometimes these things can be a bit tricky to bring up).
Ask your partner if they have anything in mind that they’d like to try, and be open to the idea of trying some new things. Additionally, don’t be afraid to speak up when you want to try something new in the bedroom.
The internet is a wonderful place (with a staggering amount of erotic content), where you can find pretty much any information you’d like on any topic (or product) with just a few strokes of the keyboard.
Pick a time when you’re both not busy (like one night before bed) and Google some of the best couples sex toys to use - you will almost certainly find something you both are intrigued by!
Porn is sometimes a delicate subject in relationships, but it can be such a good experience to have together and can give you a few ideas on things you’d both like to try.
With homemade amateur porn being at an all-time high right now, you’re sure to stumble across a couple you both love to watch (and can get some inspiration from).
When in Doubt - Ask a Friend
What good are girl-friends for if not to talk good food, fun travel ideas and raunchy sex tips, right?
Ask some of your coupled friends what toys they use in the bedroom and soon enough you and your partner will have a list full of ideas in no time - because when toys are that good, people love to talk about them.
Need some help finding an intimate toy to give your late-night romp sessions a bit of romance?. Cater to the mood you’re in and choose a few different sex toys for various situations you and your partner find yourselves in. Sometimes you want wet and wild, sometimes you want steamy and sensual - whatever you want, there’s a toy for that.
These are some of the best couples sex toys if you’re looking for passion.
Let’s face it: cock rings can be a bit daunting.
But the reviews for this rabbit cock ring are great, with many people claiming it’s the only cock ring their partner will use.
While there are many cock rings that are designed to give some feel-good sensations to the woman as well as her male counterpart, this is really the best cock ring that was designed with both partners in mind.
Combining a stretchy cock ring with a little pulsating rabbit head creates the perfect his and hers sex toy.
The cock ring itself is stretchy and not super tight (so no fear, gentlemen). The little pulsating rabbit head is designed to push against your clit to give you that infamous rabbit orgasm I’m sure we’re all familiar with (because rabbit vibrators are a staple of any woman’s naughty nightstand drawer).
Tips for use:
Even cock-rings that are stretchy (like this one) can feel a bit tight...after all, that’s why cock rings make sex feel so great - so it’s best to use a water-based lube to slip it on and into a position that is comfortable. This toy gives the best sensation to both people when used in missionary sex positions.
The WeVibe sync was the first sex toy I ever used with a partner and let me tell you: this was quite the introduction. I honestly am not sure I’ve come across another couple’s toy that offers quite the same things that this one does.
The WeVibe sync was designed as a couples toy: giving her the powerful clitoris and G-Spot stimulation she needs and allowing you both to share the vibrations as you go.
I’m sure you’re wondering how one sex toy can be made to fit any two people and the answer is simple: it’s really adjustable. With several adjustable points that practically allow the toy to be put into whatever shape you need, you can manipulate it to hit just the right spot.
While there are quite a few other brands who have come up with a toy that looks quite similar to this one...the reviews don’t lie: the WeVibe Sync is amazing.
Tips for use:
Not only is this an amazing couples toy, but it also comes with a remote so you can add a little teasing into your foreplay or let your partner really dominate you and decide just when you’re allowed to cum.
WeVibe has also leveled up their game with new features like the We-Connect app that lets you control your vibrator from your phone, even setting the pulses to match music!
Talk about a sensual dance party.
Let’s go back to basics - the bullet vibe.
For fellow women, I am sure you can relate to a bullet vibrator being one of the very first sex toys you heard of (or managed to build up the nerve to buy). Bullet vibrators have been around for ages, and for good reason: they are timeless. Simple and effective.
Le Wand is upping the bullet game, though, with their new sleek, travel-friendly bullet vibrator that has 11 (ELEVEN!) different modes that can get you and your partner where you need to go.
While bullet vibrators are often used as solo-play toys, letting your partner take control with this tiny little bullet can take your foreplay to a whole other level.
Tips for use:
If you’re feeling a bit frisky and adventurous, the great thing about bullet vibrators is that they are small...and you can use them practically anywhere, at any time.
I’ll let your imagination run wild with ideas on where you could use this one.
Then, let’s move on to some of the more raunchy sex toys - because that rattle-your-headboard, wake-your-neighbors kind of sex is also super important.
So, what are some of the most popular sex toys if you’re into rough sex?
This spreader bar can be used to bind your bratty little sub in any number of compromising positions while you do what needs to be done.
While most spreader bars are pretty standard, the best thing about this one is the adjustable bar that not only binds their ankles but their wrists, too - leaving them open and vulnerable to whatever you want to do with them.
Tips for use:
Leave your lover quivering with anticipation by leaving them bound, spread open for you while you trace their body with your fingers or using a toy to give them a taste of what’s about to happen.
This may look like just another dildo - but it’s much more than that. This “strapless” double dildo is perfect for any kind of play, with any kind of partner(s).
If you’re interested in orgasms for everyone involved, the flexible and powerful Sharevibe toy may be what you’re looking for. This toy is often praised for its size, which is massive (hence why it’s in the rough category). If you’re looking for a small, compact dildo...you will be disappointed by this beast.
Along with the size, reviews state that the smooth feel of the toy is another strong point (which is quite common with FunFactory toys). One user even claims that the curve of this toy gives you a specific kind of G-spot stimulation that other toys just can’t offer.
Tips for use:
Funfactory has perfectly designed for both lesbian and heterosexual couples alike. You can also use this toy in a strap-on if you’re interested in testing out something new (like pegging).
If you’re looking for an introduction to (or to level up) your impact play games, paddles and floggers are a natural go-to for those who love a good spanking.
The Eden Leather Paddle has great reviews for being firm, easy to wield and having the perfect surface area to cover your lover’s entire juicy backside. The Satin/Faux Leather Flogger is best known for adding a bit of heat to your spanking sessions, and users are loving this particular flogger because of it’s “silky and sensual” feel.
Tips for use:
Want to take paddle play even further? Well, electro-paddles are a thing you might want to check out if you’re intrigued by electricity.
One last thing for those who love impact play or want to experiment with new ways to push around that bratty sub - have you ever tried a cane?
This sleek, medical-grade aluminum cane was practically crafted to fit into your latex-gloved hand as you prepare your vulnerable sub for what’s about to happen to them.
Tips for use:
Of course, consent is key.
While the fantasy of punishing your frisky little slave is wild hot, discussing your roles and setting safe words and gestures is always step number one to enjoy any form of BDSM play.
If you have an insatiable appetite for adventure and spontaneity, this list will give you some awesome new ideas.
From travel-sized toys you can use practically anywhere to full restraint systems that will kick things up a notch - let’s go on a naugthy adventure, shall we?
Bondage couples have such a large variety of restraint system toys to choose from, but if you’re new to that whole bondage thing, you may want to start with something simple.
The soft material of the thigh cuff system is sturdy enough to keep your lover bound while you explore wherever you want, however you want. It’s easy to adjust and simple enough to remove once the fun is over, but not too easy to get out of that your partner could do it on their own.
Tips for use:
Bend your sub over and take them from behind while they are bound and spread for your enjoyment.
As with any restraint system, you should also refrain from using it by yourself (unless you have bought a system that is specifically used for self-bondage).
When it comes to bondage, no one does it quite like Twisted Monk, and that’s been made clear by their consistently stellar reviews. Their rope selection is any bondage freak’s dream, and they have tons of different starter kits for both solo bondage and couple bondage play.
Tying up your lover in all kinds of compromising positions can get you completely immersed in a naughty role-play scene or give that little something extra to your dom/sub game.
Tips for use:
I highly recommend starting out with one of Twisted Monk’s starter kits - you can choose from a few different options depending on what you’re looking to experience. Each starter kit comes with DVD instructions that are totally helpful if you’re just learning the ropes (pun very much intended) when it comes to bondage play.
Talk about incognito.
This necklace?
It’s actually a vibrator.
Do you have any idea what this would do for your spontaneity!?
I mean...let’s say you’re waiting for your food at a restaurant and just happen to both need to use the facilities at the same time...or maybe you’re stuck in traffic and decide to pull off to the side for some action. The possibilities are endless when you have a concealed vibrator literally dangling from around your neck.
While you might be thinking this is going to look like a very strange necklace - it’s actually really cute and quite discreet.
Not interested in wearing a vibe around your neck? Tuck it into your purse or keep it stashed in your car for when the right opportunity arises.
Tips for use: Add some zest back into your love life and be as spontaneous and wild as you can.
One of the biggest turn-offs when it comes to sex toys can often be the price tag.
Many people don’t consider a bondage set or a dildo to be an investment - but really, there is no denying that sex toys can get expensive.
Getting off doesn’t have to break the bank with these budget-friendly toys for two.
Good things come in small packages, and this is a good thing. If you’ve never heard of a Tenga Egg before - you (and your male lover) can thank me later.
At first, it might seem a bit weird...I mean, the exterior literally looks like an egg. But these little Tenga Eggs are very popular, inexpensive male masturbation toys that are often used by couples during foreplay.
Although they are commonly used as one-and-done toys (because they are so inexpensive), it’s also very possible to wash out the sleeve and use it again another time. This very stretchy material is basically a masturbation sleeve that fits over your guy’s manhood and gives various sensations (depending on which egg you have) as they masturbate.
Tips for use:
Although the Tenga Egg was obviously designed as a solo masturbation toy for men, it’s amazing for couples foreplay or giving your man a special helping hand.
There are various eggs you can buy that all have different textures or sensations: wavy, silky and ribbed are three of the more popular textures.
The reviews are in and these eggs are surprisingly satisfying.
Originally designed for camping, people have found an ingenius way to reinvent this tool as a sex toy - and I just want to thank whoever decided to give this a try in the first place.
Snake bite nipple suckers are sold by various vendors and they all pretty much serve the same function: suction. More specifically, suction on your nipples - which feels amazing.
If you’re interested in nipple stimulation but aren’t quite sure about buying nipple clamps (and want something more than the average household clothespin can offer), nipple suckers are your best bet.
They’re cheap and fun, so why not!?
Tips for use:
Hold the cup over your nipple, pinching gently, let the suction pull your nipple into the cup. These wearable nipple clamp alternatives can even be worn for hours, not leaving more than a little red mark to show where they were.
If you’re looking to add a little something new but don’t haven’t decided what toy you want to buy yet, why not try something to make the sex you’re already having just a little bit better?
This simple little contraption lets you take doggy style to a whole new level and puts a bit more “umph” into your thrust. Trust me, you will both feel the difference.
Tips for use:
With every deep thrust, give the strap a little tug, too. Your partner will be feeling you deeper, more intensely than ever before because of the new position the strap puts them in.
Looking for a bit more?
Well...abandon hope ye who enter here - because things are about to get intense with these toys that go the extra mile and let you experience your naughtiest fantasies and fetishes together.
Electroplay enthusiasts and beginners alike can enjoy this neon wand kid and really electrify the sex between you and your partner.
If you’re unfamiliar with electro play and want to know more about having truly shocking orgasms, check out our Ultimate Guide to Erotic Electrostimulation.
This sleek little case is filled with everything you and your lover need to give your orgasms that little extra something.
The neon wand comes with various attachments that give a variety of different sensations, two different pinwheels (if you’re looking for a teeny tiny tingling sensation), an electro-flogger for intense impact play, and the infamous power tripper, which allows you to play without the wand and quite literally have an electric touch.
If you have never used an e-stim toy before, venturing into it can seem daunting and kind of confusing - but once you going, it’s very simple and very fun.
If you’re interested in seeing KinkLab’s electro toys at work, check out this instructional video.
Tips for use:
The power tripper attachment for this toy is by far KinkLab’s crowning achievement when it comes to e-stim toys. The power tripper gives you a literal magic touch, letting you be the conductor instead of using a wand. And it’s not just your fingers that have the magic touch - even trailing your tongue across your partner’s skin gives off a bit of a tingle.
The power tripper lets you put the wand down and take control, making it an amazing couples sex toy.
You know in movies, how the guy has the woman pinned up against the wall, giving her the apparent time of her life with seemingly nothing holding her there but his hard member inside her?
Well...it’s not really that easy IRL. Even when you’ve practiced it before, it gets tiring after a few minutes. However, a really good door jam sex swing will help!
The SportsSheets Door Jam Kit is good for beginners because it’s simple to use and doesn’t require a lot of set up (like some other sex swings).
Tips for use:
The door needs to be closed, and before you get started, maybe give it a little test by putting your partner in the swing and making sure they are sturdy and not at risk of falling or breaking the door before you start your fun.
While I could keep listing amazing sex toys to bring out with your partner when you’re interested in trying something new - what you choose depends on what you both like, what you want to experiment with and what you’re comfortable trying.
Talk to your partner, bounce ideas off each other and be honest about what you want in bed.
Whether you’re a regular Sofia Gray customer or a total newbie just looking to spice things up: adding a toy for two into your sex life is never a bad idea.
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