Whether it’s a Hemsworth brother or Angelina Jolie, we have all caught ourselves (and our significant others) fantasizing about what it would be like to have sex with a celebrity.
Celebrity crushes are a part of life - and while you may not actually be able to have super kinky hot sex with the A-list Hollywood celeb of your dreams, maybe you can have the next best thing…
Enter celebrity roleplaying.
The art of sexual role play is essentially being able to take on new personas to explore deeper fantasies you and your partner have. While role-playing is obviously a thing singles can explore as well, I wanted to dive into roleplaying when you’re part of a couple...and more specifically, I wanted to get into how to roleplay as your lover’s ultimate celebrity crush.
When you are part of a couple for a long time, things can get kind of routine, we all know this. In the bedroom, we do our best to mix things up - maybe you buy new sex toys or put a little more effort into date night to turn each other on...women buy nice lingerie and men spring for the nicer bottle of wine if they want to make the evening special.
Something you may not have considered trying is roleplaying as your partner’s celebrity crush.
I’ll set the scene: you’re Netflix & Chill’ing, long-term relationship style: munching on snacks and scrolling through your phone during the boring parts of the movie your partner picked, likely wearing your most comfortable lounge-wear. And all of a sudden your ultimate celeb crush appears on-screen.
Your heart speeds up and suddenly you can’t think about anything other than ripping off your man’s Dorito-stained sweatpants and going at it right there on the couch.
You may instinctively try to hide the fact that someone else’s presence (on a television screen, no less) has made you all hot and bothered...but what if you didn’t? What if you told your partner all about it and the naughty things you’re all of a sudden in the mood for?
Here’s why you should absolutely share your celeb fantasies with your partner and talk about roleplaying in the bedroom...
Being honest about your fantasies just feels really great.
The first step here is to just be honest with your partner - and yourself - about what turns you on. Fantasies are nothing to be ashamed of and there is this weird kind of stigma that if you’re in a monogamous relationship all attraction to other people is just immediately squashed.
Well, in reality, suppressing your fantasies about other people can often lead to more problems in the bedroom: dissatisfaction, resentment, not allowing yourself to be aroused and fulfilled...all of which can suck the happiness out of your sex life.
Having an honest conversation with your partner about celebrity crushes or even just things you fantasize about in general can feel really great. It doesn’t have to be something you feel guilty over and it certainly doesn’t have to be something you feel the need to hide.
You can even make it fun...open a bottle of wine and talk about all the naughty things you’d like to do to the celebrity you’re crushing on - soon enough it turns to dirty talk about each other and amazing sex on the living room carpet.
If it sounds like I’m speaking from experience...I am.
Ask and you shall (maybe) receive...so why not?
Confession time: one time, I asked if we could do a roleplaying scene...and we did.
How crazy is that!?
I just asked my man to pretend to be someone else and he said “okay”, and proceeded to give me not one, not two, but THREE of the best orgasms I’ve ever had.
And all I had to do was ask for something I’d been tip-toeing around for months.
It really can be that simple, people.
Of course, there are negotiations, concerns, limits that need to be discussed...but just stop to think about this for a minute: you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
You could be having crazy-kinky sex with Jason Momoa instead of tricking your man into watching every Jason Momoa performance ever so you can fantasize about him...and all you need to do is be honest with your partner about wanting that.
Mixing it up is exciting and you can experience a “threesome”, even when you’re not ready for it IRL.
You may be a bit taken aback when your partner admits to wanting you to pretend to be someone else - but if that doesn’t suit your own desires, you can always find a way around it...like pretending to have a threesome.
You, your partner, and your celebrity crush (in the form of your best dildo) can have the night of your lives roleplaying a threesome scenario. Again, from experience - this is one of the best ways to roleplay celebrity crushes because you’re also including your partner, not just pretending they are someone else.
You may be surprised how much fun you (both) have.
Mastering the art of roleplaying can take some time. Practice makes perfect - taking on a whole new persona in the bedroom can be a bit tricky, but staying totally in character while giving your partner some of the best lovin’ you can muster is definitely going to drive them wild.
Not only can this be a fantasy-brought-to-life for your partner but it can also be a fun way for you to experiment with a new sexual identity...who knows, maybe you’ll find something you like.
It’s a psychological experiment: you can explore other subsets of your sexuality in a safe environment.
Have you ever heard the phrase: “trying it on for size”? Well, this is how you can do that with a bunch of different kinks in the bedroom that you’ve always wanted to try.
Of course, kissing them, touching them, fucking them as though you’re someone else is super-hot for them, but you also have the chance to transform into someone entirely different.
You can talk to them as though you’re someone else, create new mannerisms, and add a few intricacies into your roleplaying game that really takes things to a whole new level. You might be surprised at how much fun it is to take on a whole new persona after years of being the same person.
Roleplaying is super popular - there has to be a reason for that.
Not that “everyone is doing it” is a reason to dive headfirst into a new kink - but there are quite a few reasons why so many people like roleplaying. As far as kinks go, roleplaying can be so personalized and as tame (or wild) as you’d like it to be - which might explain why it’s so common.
Not only that, but there are countless articles written about roleplaying (21 Sizzling and Kinky Role Play Ideas, 10 All-Time Favorite BDSM Role Playing Ideas, etc) - so you will have no problem finding roleplaying ideas to try or new and fun ways to incorporate it into your sex life.
It gives you a taste of something/someone new (without having to switch partners).
I’m just going to say it: when you’re with the same person for a long time, things can get kind of stale. Of course, there are always ways to revamp and revive a stale sex life. After all, happy marriages (and happy sex lives) aren’t always effortless.
Roleplaying can be the spice you add when the dish seems a bit bland or your tastebuds are in the mood for a new flavor.
It’s out of your comfort zone, but still relatively safe.
As far as kinks go, roleplaying is more make-believe than anything else - making it one of the safest kinks you can try with your lover. If you’re new to the BDSM world and want to dip a toe in the water before diving straight in, roleplaying is a great way to introduce some new ideas to your romantic life.
It’s incredibly intimate.
Sharing your deepest fantasies with someone else can feel very vulnerable. There is something really bonding about telling your partner the things you fantasize about and having them put the effort in to make those things become more of a reality for you.
To let them see those parts of you and to trust them enough to have them take a run at fulfilling one of your ultimate fantasies requires a deep level of trust and connection.
Not only will you have a great time, but you also just feel more connected to your partner than ever before - you feel seen.
It’s a new spin on monogamy.
Similarly to how roleplaying about a threesome can satisfy the urge when you’re not ready to go IRL, role-plays that involve your partner pretending to be someone else can satisfy the curiosity of being with someone new, without actually having to be with someone new.
According to intimacy coach Londin Angel Winters, “roleplay is a powerful tool for sustaining a thriving, juicy monogamous relationship.”
Roleplaying is great and all - but celebrity roleplaying tends to take things to a whole new level.
Not only are you setting a very particular scene, but you (or your partner) are taking on the persona of someone your significant other has likely had countless fantasies and naughty dreams about.
You want to make this an experience they will remember, to use as fuel for showers that get a little handsy or nights when you’re working late and can’t make it home to ravage your partner.
How do you really make a celebrity role-playing scenario feel real (and really, really good)?
Start small - have the talk.
Whether you’re setting out which celebrity hall-passes you’re allowed to have or who you find sexiest from the movie you’re watching on date night, the first step in creating a healthy roleplay scenario is being able to talk to your partner (comfortably) about your desires.
Finding other people attractive isn’t a sin, it’s not grounds for a fight and it’s definitely not something you should feel you have to keep from your partner. We’re all human, we all have needs, we all have eyes - and those eyes see attractive people every day.
Set ground rules.
Diving into another persona is only going to be worth it if you and your partner come out of this experience feeling satisfied - so listen to what kind of role-playing your partner wants to try.
Maybe they just want you to talk as though you’re Thor, not actually dress like him. Or maybe they want the experience of you pretending to be someone else entirely. Listen to your partner’s needs and desires and be honest with them about how far you’re willing to go with the roleplay.
Spontaneity is really sexy - so catch your lover off guard with their ultimate fantasy.
Sometimes planning intimate, intricate sexual escapades can take some of the fun out of it...but things still need to be planned, safe words accounted for, scenes set...so how do we get around the total mood-killer that is planning out a roleplaying scene?
Well, you can plan it all out and then act on it on a whim. There are a lot of different kinks (consensual non-consent, for example) that require planning ahead of time and the actual action to take place on another night so things feel a bit more spontaneous.
Of course, in the heat of the moment, you and your partner should feel free to change the plans - but planning things out ahead of time and then acting on them whenever you feel like it can be a great way to surprise your partner with a super sexy cosplay.
Don’t be afraid of costumes - you may be rewarded for going the extra mile.
Okay, so...roleplaying is fine, but roleplaying with costumes is next level sexy and will blow your lover’s mind, especially if you’re dressed as their favorite character.
It’s one thing to pretend to be Chris Evans, but if you came into the bedroom wearing a Captain America costume...you might feel silly, but when your lover has a thing for the most responsible Avenger, she will be floored to see you in costume and likely willing to do just about anything to repay you for the kind service of defending her from Aliens that are invading New York.
This works both ways - I mean, what guy doesn’t want to have a one-night stand with Scarlet Johansson dressed in her latex-tight Black Widow outfit?
If you’re not a Marvel fan, what I’m saying is that perhaps a (somewhat silly) costume will (most of the time) turn your partner into a sex-crazed “I’ll-do-anything-for-you” fangirl.
Use sex toys!
One of the best roleplaying experiences I’ve ever had was actually when my partner was my partner, but the “third person” (aka my celebrity crush) was my dildo. It was double penetration play mixed with my ultimate sexual fantasy - and it was heaven.
We had an elaborate roleplay set out where the sex toy was brought in as a “third” to our couple and, as a couple who isn’t quite comfortable with the idea of an IRL threesome, it was really erotic to roleplay as if there was a third person in the room with us.
The sex toys you use can vary depending on what kind of scenario you’re playing out - you can use a dildo or vibrator for double penetration or you can take on a whole new persona where you use restraints and gags on your partner...really, the possibilities here are endless, which is what makes it so much fun.
Get lost in it.
You’re no longer you. You are your lover’s perfect fantasy. You are going to seduce them, touch them, kiss them in the ways they’ve always longed to be touched by someone they’ve been fantasizing about since they were a teenager.
Let yourself get lost in the character, in the roleplay, in the scene. Roleplaying is such a great way to turn your brain off and live in the moment because you’re taking on the persona of someone else.
While roleplaying is quite a unique and personal experience, as everyone has their own fantasies, there are more “common” celebrity roleplaying ideas that make their way around - and I can tell you how to achieve them all.
The Magic Mike
Channeling your “Magic Mike” and giving your lover a version of their own private stripper can be insanely erotic. Put on some seductive music (Ginuwine's “Pony” springs to mind), sit her down in a chair, and grind up on her like your name is Channing and every girl in the world wants your pelvis thrust at her (because we do).
This one works both ways - after all, what man didn’t go crazy for J-Lo’s stripper routine in Hustlers? Not only is the act of stripping and teasing super erotic, but taking on a whole new persona to do it will drive your partner wild.
Want to make this fantasy a reality? Here’s how:
The Superhero
Whether it’s an Avenger (Thor, Captain America, Black Widow), Henry Cavil as Superman, or Christian Bale as Batman, the “hero” celebrity roleplay is definitely a common fantasy. Even when we’re not talking celebs - the police officer or firefighter fantasies are both super common.
I mean, who doesn’t want to feel as though their partner is some hero on a mission to save the day (and get the girl)?
Want to make this fantasy come to life? Here’s how:
The Villain
There has always been (and will always be) something inherently sexy about a bad boy (or girl) - and incorporating that into your celebrity role-playing can be really easy when you look at some of the characters your lover’s crush has played.
Want to make this dream come true for your lover? Here’s how:
The Actual Celebrity
Characters in movies are fine and all, but sometimes it’s the IRL stuff that really gets you going. Maybe your partner has a thing for a certain celebrity outside of the roles they play in movies...
There’s a way you can bring that to life, too. Here’s how:
The Athlete
Okay - athletes are super sexy. I myself fancy hockey players (...is my Canadian showing?) - but really, there is something particularly attractive about someone who is good at what they do, and when they are passionate about it, it’s even hotter.
From football players to hockey players to basketball players to cheerleaders, the “athlete” fantasy is real - and here’s how to make the most of it:
Roleplaying isn’t something you should take super seriously, in my opinion. Adding roleplay into the mix can be a serious thing, but more often than not, it’s best done with a light heart and a sense of humor.
Additionally, putting pressure on yourself to “make your lover’s fantasies come true” can put pressure on it and suck all the fun out of it. This should be a fun thing you and your partner can do, whenever the occasion calls for it, to add a bit of fun into your sex life.
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