Men are less likely than women to try sex toys. Maybe that’s because they think all sex toys for men have to do with putting stuff up your butt. Although anal play and prostate stimulation can be a revelation to many guys (seriously, try it!), it’s possible to incorporate sex toys into a normal masturbation routine that involve your dick only.
The solution here is a male masturbator.
If you’re a little confused about the term, we don’t mean some creepy guy who’s jerking it on the train. A male masturbator is a sex toy that goes over your dick to make jerking off a more pleasurable experience. The most well known brand of male masturbator is the Fleshlight.
Not convinced? Here are some reasons men should feel more comfortable buying sex toys.
1. The vast majority of men are already jerking it.
Some men feel that jerking off as an adult is shameful and embarrassing. There’s an idea that adults should be in relationships or at least hooking up at bars. Some people think that jerking off at home is just sad.
This just isn’t the case. 92% of men admitted in a large study that they masturbate. This data comes from men age 18-74 in 18 countries. There’s no reason to feel shame about jerking off.
Plus, you can jerk off and still have a fulfilling sex life. Some people say masturbating relieves stress, improves sleep, and even helps pain like headaches. Also, sometimes your girlfriend isn’t home and you’re horny as all hell. There’s nothing wrong with that at all.
2. Using sex toys makes you a better lover.
Sex toys can help you better satisfy your partner. When people who have sex with men were surveyed, they rated their satisfaction level after sleeping with men who don’t use sex toys at 76%.
After sleeping with men who use sex toys, they rated their satisfaction level at a whopping 90%!
This can happen for a couple of reasons. One, you get to know your body better when you use sex toys. You learn what you like and how you like to be touched. Also, some male masturbators teach you to increase your stamina, which helps you keep going all night long.
3. Sex toys open you up to new experiences.
Jerking off with your hand feels one generally just one way. Sure, it’s one very good way. But wouldn’t it be interesting to try something new?
Male masturbators have tons of textures, shapes, and functions. Each one will feel different than any experience you’ve had. That’s pretty fucking exciting.
4. Masturbators make sex and masturbation more accessible.
Not everyone with a penis has the mobility or stamina to jackhammer their dick in their hand. Same goes for their partners. Masturbators offer assistance and help people get off more easily. Some models are even hands free, which greatly improves access for many people.
5. Trying out new sex toys changes up the bedroom routine.
Buying sex toys shows you’re more adventurous in the bedroom. So many people just do missionary just use their hand to masturbate over and over again. Having sex toys allows you to try new experiences and have a more diverse sexual portfolio.
You can use sex toys like male masturbators with your partner, as well as during masturbation. This lets your partner see you experiencing something new, and can also make sex easier on her when she needs a break. There’s also the option of using the masturbator on yourself while she eats your ass, pegs you, or gives you a BJ.
The options are limitless.
6. You can have sex during a long-distance relationship.
LDRs are hard, everybody. And for kinky people, it’s even more difficult, because their sex drives are often higher.
Luckily, there are high-tech strokers that can sync up to your significant other’s toys so the two of you can get it on, no matter the distance. There are also remote controlled models, so your partner can get you off just by using their phone.
If you think that all masturbators for men are the same, think again. This list offers a lot of diverse options that might just keep you coming back for more.
We’re gonna start with the O.G. masturbator. It’s probably the brand name you’re aware of, since they’re the largest male sex toy company in the world. Luckily, they still make some pretty bangin’ sex toys.
The most well-known are probably from their Classics line, the Classic Pink Lady and Classic Pink Butt. Each features a soft, skin-like sleeve inside a plastic casing made to resemble a flashlight. If you want to be discreet, all you need to do is cover up the vagina or butt, and no one will be the wiser! If anything, having a flashlight in your bedroom will make you look super prepared in the event of an emergency.
Fleshlights come in many different styles. You can get Fleshlights that look like the vaginas or butts of porn stars. Or maybe try a see-through version that lets you or your partner look in on the show. You can also customize your own Fleshlight, choosing your orifice and internal texture.
Fleshlights might not be the best product on this list. Their sleeves are made of TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer), which is a porous material. This means it reeeeally needs to be thoroughly cleaned after each use. There are also varied reviews when it comes to the Classic Fleshlights, complaining that they aren’t textured. (You can combat this by building your own, though.)
TENGA also offers lots of great male masturbators, and we’ll touch on a couple more later. This Spinner product rotates as you push it down on your cock, creating a unique spiral motion. It looks a little silly going up and down, a little like a barber pole, but it’s a sensation that wasn’t offered by any other toy we found. It comes in three internal patterns, so you can pick which one looks sexiest to you.
Plus, it’s pretty inexpensive, compared to some of the other products you’ll see. It’s also reusable; all you need to do is thoroughly wash it out with water. Its case even doubles as a drying rack so you don’t have to worry about mold or anything growing inside while it’s still wet (which would be major ew).
It sort of seems like the Lovense Max 2 can do it all. Vibrate? Check.
Operate via an app on your phone. Yep.
Let you have virtual sex with your significant other from a distance? Mhm.
Make dinner and take out the trash? Maybe not, but it’s close.
It’s genius that this masturbator/vibrator can be controlled on your phone. (Although, come to think of it, this does occupy both hands, so it’d be difficult to do something else like play with your nipples or stick a finger in your ass, but it’s a small price to pay.) This function lets your masturbator be controlled from any distance away, which lets your partner make the rules. It also interacts with their other sex toys like the Nora. (For more info on these, check out our LDR article.)
Also, a random feature of this one: you can play a VR game called Mirror Life with it. The game allows you to hook up with sexy computer animated girls in all sorts of positions, and then you’ll feel the motions mirrored in your masturbator. Seems maybe a little unnecessary, but if you’re a big gamer, you might be into it.
Are you into temperature play? There’s a male masturbator for that.
It’s designed to feel like a mouth, and the way it engulfs your head will give you that oral sex sensation. The device can reach 104°F (or 40°C) to make it feel more like the real thing. It has three vibration speeds and six patterns. Who said vibrators were just for the ladies?
Are all of these options seeming a little intimidating to you?
This stroker from Doc Johnson isn’t even covered at the end, so you don’t have to worry about an arduous cleaning process. You can actually just throw it in the dishwasher!
Plus, it’s not closed on the sides, either. The great advantage of this is you know you’ll fit in it, even if your length is a little girthy. It’ll adjust for you!
It’s not anatomical (no rubber pussies here) and pretty abstract. It kind of looks like a tall beer koozie. This means that you have plausible deniability if someone finds it. (Just remember you shouldn’t be ashamed to have sex toys!)
So often, trans men are excluded from the conversation when it comes to sex toys. During certain parts of their transition, trans men don’t really have many sex toy options that are available to them, since their cocks are too small for most masturbators and some toys “made for women” might make them feel dysphoric.
Buck-Off is working to fill a need by creating a stroker that’s made for trans men. Their Buck Angel stroker is made for trans men who are on testosterone who have an enlarged clitoris, about the size of a thumb. A traditional masturbator wouldn’t work for them because of the size.
They also understand that not all trans men are on testosterone, so they created the Kiss-X, which works for people with all sizes of clitoral growth.
These products aim to help trans men with gender dysphoria. It’s really cool that we’re at a point in our society that this product exists.
7. Kiiroo Onyx2
Have you ever wanted to sit back and have your dick basically jerk off itself?
The Kiiroo Onyx2 can do that.
It’s a hands-free stroker that can complete over 140 strokes a minute, all without you lifting a finger. The robots are the future.
It looks a little bit like an Alexa. That’s how much tech it has inside. It has 10 contracting rings that make you feel like you’re having intercourse, so it moves up and down. It’s made of body safe material and has a Fleshlight sleeve inside, which are interchangeable and replaceable. It also lets you communicate with other Kiiroo toys over long distances for cyber sex.
Oh, and here’s the thing with the Onyx2. Remember how the Lovense Max 2 let you have sex while playing a video game? This thing lets you masturbate to interactive porn. Like, the device will move in time with the thrusting on the screen, making you feel like you’re fucking the porn star. There are even VR videos you can do this with.
All of these features mean that it comes with a pretty hefty price tag. But if you’re looking for a Fleshlight on robot steroids, the Onyx2 is just for you.
This is another perfect toy for you if you’re a big fan of blowjobs. (And let’s be real, who isn’t?)
The BlowYo Sensation Spiral is one of the simplest and least expensive toys on this list, but that doesn’t mean it’s not effective. It offers textured sensations that are supposed to feel like a mouth on your junk.
It consists of two rings at the end of a stretchy sleeve, and it creates a sucking feeling. Unlike toys that have a hard plastic exterior like the Fleshlight or Kiiroo Onyx2, the outside and inside are made of the same gelly material. This allows you to control the amount of pressure on your dick and accommodates all girths.
Because it’s not closed at the top, this toy can be used during couples play during a blowjob or handjob. This lets you feel like your whole cock is being engulfed, even if your partner isn’t into deep throating.
This masturbator is a little different than the other ones we’ve had on this list. So far, they’ve all been handheld and very portable. Not true with the Alana Masturbator.
This thing is the size of a real human woman from behind. She’s angled to give you a perfect view of both her pussy and ass, and it has openings for each. The ass is tighter, and the makers promise that each orifice offers unique sensations.
The site even states that Alana is a dress size 6-8 and wears a medium panties size, so you can’t say it’s not thorough.
This toy isn’t going to be for everyone. Fucking a disembodied ass might be weird for some people, and it’s definitely going into sex doll territory. (To each their own, but not what everyone is into.)
If you’re curious how to clean Alana out, so were we. It turns out that you can use your showerhead to spray the water in the dirty hole, and it’ll spray back out the other one. What are you supposed to do if you don’t have a removable showerhead? The world may never know.
The Fun Factory Mantra doesn’t look like a traditional stroker. First of all, it doesn’t encompass the whole penis, which is usually the #1 thing they’re going for. However, people rave about this thing.
The mantra has two flexible wings that hug the circumference of your penis, and delivers powerful vibrations that you can feel all the way through your cock, base to tip. It has six speeds and six vibration patterns so you can find your sweet spot.
There are many different ways to play with this thing. You can put it on the head of your penis while you stroke up and down. Or you can put it on the base of your cock while you play in other ways, either with your hands, another male masturbator, or a partner. You can also stroke it up and down for a more traditional masturbator experience.
If you’re eager to try out some direct, powerful vibrations or want a great couples toy, this one might be for you.
11. TENGA Eggs
So far, most of the sex toys here have been fairly expensive, and they’ve all been made to last. (Which is good if you’re paying over $200 for it.)
But what if you didn’t have to worry about the cleaning process at all? What if there was a toy you could use, then toss in the trash like a condom?
Enter TENGA Eggs. These toys can add a novel element to your sex life, whether it’s solo or with a partner. They’re packaged as eggs, which makes them easy to store and a little whimsical.
When you see the size, you’ll assume it’s way too small for masturbating with. Luckily, the material inside is super stretchy and has an insertion length of 7.8 inches. It has a lube packet inside that you’ll squirt in. Then all you do is stretch it over your cock and go to town!
The best thing about these eggs is that they come in a bunch of varieties. In their original line, they have patterns like Wavy, Clicker, Spider, and Twister. TENGA also has a stronger line where the material of the eggs is more firm. Some of these textures include Thunder, Crater, Surfer, Shiny, and Misty.
While they are made to be disposable, it is possible to rinse them out and use them again. You just probably won’t get as many uses out of them as you would a more expensive toy.
12. Autoblow AI
Here’s another science-y one. The Autoblow AI is a wild piece of machinery...but it looks pretty rad.
This thing is a blowjob machine. The website says that their AI watched 1,000 hours of blowjob videos to figure out how to create the perfect blowjob. Plus, there are 10 blowjob settings on the Autoblow AI that are the same every time, but there’s one “AI” blowjob that does something different every time.
We’re gonna level with you: the AI thing seems sort of like B.S. However, that doesn’t mean it’s not a hell of a good sex toy. The reviews say it’s orgasmic, and the videos on the site sure look appealing.
One thing isn’t appealing, though: it looks like it belongs in a spaceship, or kind of like a modem. There’s definitely nothing that will get you in the mood here (unless you’re an android). It plugs into the wall, which means it doesn’t need batteries, but it also adds to the industrial feel.
If you’re the kind of person who can zone out and not care about the machine, then this will feel amazing. But if you would feel more comfortable fucking a fake pussy, maybe sit this one out.
If you’re techy and like to code, get ready to jizz your pants.
LELO has developed a sex toy with openly available code. Basically, that means that you can get in there and tinker with it to your heart’s content, making it the perfect sex toy for you. It’s also connected with the LELO app, which gives you insight into your performance.
Plus, the F1s doesn’t have a vibrator in it. It has something way more unique. It’s the same technology used in their SONA, which they say has become the best-selling sex toy in the world.
LELO explains the technology like this:
“Instead of standard vibrations, one of the motors emits powerful sonic waves that permeate deep into your penis, making it feel as though it’s resonating pleasurably from all directions all at once, instead of simply tickling the nerve endings on the surface of your skin. It will help you achieve the most overwhelming orgasms of your life.”
A pretty big promise, but one of our writers loved her toy that’s a lot like the SONA, so it seems like this package could deliver. This is just one other unique option among all of the other ones above!
Well, it’s good to have options. If you’re feeling a little intimidated or aren’t sure whether you’ll like these masturbators at all, try one of the cheaper models like the TENGA Eggs or the Doc Johnson Truskyn Silicone Ribbed Male Masturbator. You have your whole life to try out different sex toys. Isn’t that freeing?
Remember: no matter how you want to get off—whether it be getting a blowjob, masturbating to some used panties, or having sex with a girl in a video game—masturbators can get you there.