Have you ever thought of becoming an escort?
Choosing to become an escort is something that requires a lot of thought and preparation. Once you’ve decided this is something you’d like to do, the process of actually becoming an escort can seem pretty daunting.
Where do you start?
Well, first of all: what is an escort?
An escort (sometimes referred to as a companion) is more than just the pretty face some people assume they are. “Escort” is a term generally used to describe someone who offers services like accompanying someone to an event, providing social company, etc. This is usually set up through an agency (the client would call the agency and arrange to hire an escort), but some escorts are freelance and work independently, choosing their own clients.
Many people assume all escorts are prostitutes, but we will get more into the differences there (and why that isn’t the case) below.
For now, we need to focus on one big question: do you want to become an escort? If you’re considering this career, read through this article and some of the questions you have about the job may become a little more clear.
Becoming an escort...is this what you want?
This is a really important question. As with most new business ventures, you may have to be in this for a while before you really start to make good money with it. Many people assume becoming an escort is an easy way to make fast money - but it can be a process to get started and finding clients (even through an agency) can take time.
Not only that, but escorts need to be good at what they do. A companion or escort needs to excel at morphing into whatever the client needs them to be, whether it be a one-off date to an event or someone with whom they can create a deeper, more intimate bond with over several sessions.
In order to be good at what you do, most of the time, this requires loving what you do. This business can be difficult to break into and building a list of reliable clients can take time - so you should be sure that this is what you want before starting down this road.
Some questions you may need to answer for yourself before getting started:
These questions can be difficult and it may take some time to establish what you really want out of this - but hopefully, this article will help you find the answers!
Dealing with the stigma…
There is (and likely always will be) some sort of stigma around sex work. Unfortunately, that is just the truth. While escorting can be more than sex (like actually traveling as someone’s companion or offering more girlfriend-related services), you do need to be comfortable having sex with your clients. Along with that, you need to be comfortable in the line of sex work, because escorting does fall under that kind of “umbrella” term.
While escorting and prostitution can be quite different, there can be some overlap and confusion, so let’s clarify...
A prostitute is a term generally used to describe someone who offers to engage in sexual activity for a fee.
An escort can also offer sexual activity as part of their various services or packages, but not always. Most of the time, an escort’s packages will include things more along the lines of intimacy, closeness, connection, friendship, etc. Really, you’re selling your time and your bond with the client, as an escort. When there is an exchange of sex in these services, it opens the escort up to prostitution charges if prostitution isn’t legal in their area.
Is prostitution illegal?
In many places, yes, prostitution is illegal - like in much of the United States, for example. However, in some places (like the Netherlands, Brazil, Denmark, Ecuador, Germany, Austria, etc) prostitution is legal and often even regulated in some way.
In order to find out if prostitution is legal in your area, you may need to do some research.
Is being an escort illegal?
This is a loaded question because it all comes down to how your country/state defines an escort. In California, for example, under law, an escort is different from a prostitute. An escort agrees to accompany a client to a social event or provide entertainment in exchange for money. This is considered a service.
However, if that escort agrees to sexual conduct as part of those services, this could be considered prostitution and they could be charged with prostitution.
Incall escorting is when the escort receives clients who come to them. This can mean that the client comes to either the escort company or the escort’s home to receive services.
Outcall escorting is when the escort goes to wherever the client is. This would have the escort meeting the client in their home or where they choose.
Which should I choose? Well, that’s up to you. Some escorts prefer one of the other, only offering one type of service, whereas others like to be flexible and do both.
There can be pros and cons to each. For example, with incall escorting, your clients may come to your home or agency and some people wish for more privacy than that. Whereas outcall escorting, you’re forced to go to someone else’s home or a hotel room which can make some people feel uncomfortable.
Ultimately, you will need to decide for yourself what you are most comfortable doing.
This is one of the first decisions you’ll have to make after you’ve decided to give this career a shot: do I sign up with an escort/companionship agency or become an independent escort?
For example, signing up for an agency includes:
And then, becoming an independent escort includes:
As you can see, there are pros and cons to each and it’s really up to you to decide which avenue will work best for what you’re hoping to accomplish with this adventure.
There are many misconceptions about being an escort - from the job being strictly about sex to thinking that you have to be a perfect, petite blonde in order to make a real living from it.
Here are some things you should know about becoming an escort...
This can be a real business venture.
When people think of escorts, one of the first things (unfortunately) that comes to their mind is likely that this is a side business or something they do simply to make ends meet...but escorting can be so much more than that.
If you take this seriously and attach yourself to an agency (or go freelance and open up your own companionship business), you will find that you have to work as hard as any other profession - but the rewards are just as great (if not better).
Going into this with the right mindset for you is important: if you think this is just temporary, just a sexy side hustle, then that’s what it will be. However, if you go into this hoping to make a career out of it, that’s entirely possible as well.
Yes, much of this business will depend on your look. Invest in that.
“Classic beauty” is something that’s highlighted multiple times in this elite model’s guide - you know, no tattoos, a mainstream hairstyle, flawless complexion. Unfortunately, I do have to agree, this kind of image will help you here. However, I don’t believe it’s the only thing clients are looking for.
You don’t have to be a perfect hour-glass shaped woman or a super bulky man in order to make this work. Of course, those things are considered “classically” attractive and if you can achieve them, I’m sure they will help you. However, there are many, many ways you can enhance the look you already have.
In fact, upon researching some of these escorting agencies, it appears some of them even allow you a certain dollar amount every year to keep up with your appearance. The Toronto Fantasy agency (which I talk about more below as an example) offers “up to $3000 per year for plastic or cosmetic-surgeries (breast augmentation, teeth whitening, injectable enhancements, etc).”
If you haven’t been naturally blessed with “classic” looks like this or you already have tattoos, piercings, etc - there are always ways to work around that. Investing in a classic, beautiful wardrobe full of staple pieces like black cocktail dresses and red high heels is a good start. For male escorts, investing in good suits, expensive dress shirts, etc is the way to go.
When it comes to your look, invest in caring for your skin so you always have that healthy glow. If you do have tattoos and piercings, attempt to find makeup or clothing that strategically covers them up for your clients who aren’t interested in that look.
Many people are seeking simple companionship.
While intimacy and/or romance may be part of the package, many people hiring an escort are looking for companionship. Someone to attend an event with, to bring on a business trip, etc. This could mean a simple dinner date or it could mean accompanying them on a 10-day trip to Venice.
Escorts provide attention, intimacy (physical or otherwise), and companionship. While many people assume being an escort is simply about the physical, many clients require more from their escorts. In fact, some clients may hire you multiple times to attend multiple events under the guise of being their “plus one.”
Some are seeking something a more complex connection that can be emotionally draining for you.
You may be asked for a variety of different services, and some people may be more demanding of your time and attention than others. A big part of being an escort or companion is being whatever your client needs you to be. This is a fun job, one that pays well and has lots of perks - but it’s not without its drawbacks. Becoming an intimate companion to multiple clients can be exceptionally draining for your mental health at times, so it’s important to take care of yourself.
You do have to be comfortable with the notion of being a “paid companion” (which may require some physical intimacy) to other men/women.
There could be physical intimacy. That doesn’t necessarily mean sex (although it can) - and being prepared for that is important. This is just the simple truth of becoming an escort.
As mentioned above, your clients are paying for services that go far beyond the bedroom - but some clients are interested in adding a more physical component to the relationship you have with them. This is something you’ll need to keep in mind when debating if this is the right career choice for you. Deciding how you feel about this part of the job before you get started and setting boundaries with your agency or your clients is extremely important.
Being able to separate the heart and mind is incredibly valuable in this line of work.
Oftentimes, clients may think they are falling in love with you. If you’re good at your job, that is - because a very large part of your job is becoming their perfect companion. Someone they feel they can trust, open up to, become intimate with. This can often lead to complex emotions from your clients.
Escorts need to be able to separate that from “real life” and treat it, with care, as a job and not a real-life relationship. However, there needs to be a balance, because you also want your clients to feel as though they are important to you and that you are there for that very reason. It can be a difficult balance to find and maintain.
Being aware of the industry and your competition can be a make it or break it thing.
There are many, many agencies who offer escort or companionship services...and then there are the escorts who work independently. As with any industry, you need to stay on top of your game and ahead of the flock in order to keep your business booming. Consider keeping an eye on what other companions and agencies are doing to stay on top and keep clients coming back for more.
You can learn from others.
Are you interested in making this a reality? Whether you decide to pair with an agency or not, it’s always helpful to reach out to them and get information on how to become a companion with them. Aside from that, you can reach out to various independent escorts and ask if they have any consulting meetings for new/aspiring companions. No one knows the business quite like people already in the business, right?
So - you’re really doing this! Now...how do you do this? There are many ways you can start this process, but the first question is simple: do I want to go solo or attach myself to an agency?
Becoming a solo escort can be quite lucrative and exciting because you can plan and arrange everything yourself. It can also be quite tricky and difficult to get started, being as you have no reputable brand or agency backing you, and finding clients on your own may be difficult.
If you’re interested in starting as a solo escort, you could take out listings in the “classified” section of newspapers or start promoting your business online. If you choose to do the latter, creating a classic, elegant website is the first step.
You want people to see you as their fantasy, their dream, someone they can instinctively trust.
Invest in a classic, beautiful wardrobe and set up photoshoots to create alluring photos. From there, you (or hired website set up techs) can work on creating a website that’s branded specifically for you and the services you will be offering. Then, from there, you can start promoting that website and hopefully open yourself up to some clients.
If you’re interested in becoming an escort with an agency, this can take a little more time but may be worth the extra effort because then you will have assistance in finding clients and negotiating terms.
Finding an agency will vary depending on your location, and each agency will have a different process for getting started. As an example, let’s look at the Toronto Fantasy agency.
On their website, you’re given a brief description of their agency and what they expect from their companions along with the email address of the hiring personnel on their team.
Sending an application in to this particular agency, they ask you to send along a description of yourself, your experience (in and out of the industry), and non-nude photographs of yourself for their consideration.
If from there, you are asked to come in for an interview, you will be meeting with someone for an interview. All initial meetings are conducted the same way: held in a public place (like a coffee shop) in order to protect everyone involved. These meetings are considered rather private and discrete, and they ask that you don’t bring anyone along or document your meeting on social media.
Then they conduct an interview, like any other job, to see if you are the right fit for their agency. While not all agencies will run their introduction processes like this, I chose this agency because they outline their process really well on their website.
If you are someone who is naturally charismatic, reliable, and friendly, this may just be a career that will work for you. Do people find you easy to talk to? Do strangers find your presence warm and inviting? This could be a serious consideration for you!
Here are some helpful resources if you’re interested in becoming an escort:
If you’re interested in becoming an escort and think you have what it takes to become someone’s dream companion, why not give it a try?